If you read my blog you will hear me say often that boudoir is so much more than what you see at surface value. It’s about confidence building just as much as it is about sexy photos. I love reading lately about what boudoir means to my clients because from their perspective what I do in the studio has a deeper meaning and that is what I want all women to see when they see my images.
D writes: “I can’t put into words how much I want to do this and have rewritten this email like 10 times trying to figure out what to say. But the main reason I want to do these is for me. To be able to get dolled up and be my inner sexy self would be amazing. I don’t get time for me between working full time, going to school full time and the most important being a wife and mom. Just the thought of getting my hair and make up done is so exciting!”
D brought many great ideas to her shoot, but my favorite is this bike she snuck out that belonged to her husband. Props are so much fun to shoot and it makes a boudoir shoot so much more personal. Check out my favorites from her sexy Cycling Boudoir session.
In the studio we often say that boudoir is about much more than photos. Most women walk away seeing their beauty like they haven’t been able to for years and they leave feeling differently too. We promise that no matter what size you are you will feel powerful and amazing after your session. M proves that to us when coming for her encore shoot in our Sacramento Boudoir studio. She says it all, when she writes to us: “I always been self conscious about my weight & looks since I was a little girl. Last year I had pleasure to do photo shoot with you and I felt empower you made me feel beautiful. Now I want help and show other woman that shapes don’t matter and if I can do it any woman can too Because my body not perfect at all. It’s all in our minds and if we let other see a normal person show what they have perhaps other woman won’t be shy to do so. I truly want ladies to see what you saw in me.” This is the sweetest message because we absolutely believe that boudoir is about creating sexy and boosting confidence for every woman!
Shoes can make or break and outfit and in terms of a boudoir shoot it really adds sexy appeal. She was very proud to say that this was her first pair of red bottom shoes and she couldn’t wait to show them off. Some of my favorite shots from this Costa Mesa Boudoir session is of just her and her new favorite shoes. In this case, her shoes really made her radiate confidence and made her shoot was red hot!
Often times I tell women to make their session unique to their personality. The easiest way to customize a shoot is by having props. The are always a lot of fun and we’ve had tons of interesting props from baseball bats, to his favorite bottle of rum to, believe it or not, a spoon! Sometimes a prop may seem odd, but somehow we always find a way to make it sexy and those shoots often become some of my favorite shots in the studio. In the past I’ve had women ask to bring guns into the studio and I’ve always felt really intimidated by the thought. Well, I finally had my first gun inspired boudoir shoot and I have to say it “make me feel like a dangerous woman!” Seriously, it like having a super sexy spy in the studio and I think I could get use to that.
A few days ago I went back to the gym again after recovering from 6 weeks of post pardum. We joined a new gym and I took a step class, but the this particular gym’s step class was very different than the ones I’m use to taking. When I expressed my disappointment to my husband about it he replied, “Well the gym is really what you make of it.”
There it is.
In life, sometimes we let our negative thoughts or expectation cloud what could be a great experience.
In boudoir, women do this to themselves often. “I need to lose that extra xx pounds”, “I’m not skinny enough”, “I hate my (insert body part)”. I hear women beat themselves up all the time about why they shouldn’t have a boudoir session and this is really the reason why they should have one!
This is why I love my session with Kat. She doesn’t let others define her beauty by size. In fact, she loves that she is a plus size woman.
There it is again! Her positive acceptance of herself changes everything!
Boudoir is what you make of it. You are an amazing woman, period.
Beauty is not about a size and we love our plus size boudoir sessions.